![]() She might find it embarrassing that she is actually taking care of a man and child-rearing a grown man, while he is at home in another woman’s DM’s or playing video games all day. In struggle love a woman might find herself constantly lying about her status of her relationship. However, in struggle love when men are in this same situation we are told to “work with him,” he is a good man, just having bad luck,” “he is your child’s father keep him” or “you better have sex with him often because there will always be another woman who will.” All of these statements are fear-based messages that women learn at an early age about relationships. If there is such movie the woman is often criticized as lazy, not a good woman, a horrible mother, a gold digger, or selfish. There are not too many movies or videos that show a woman who is constantly cheating, have some sort of addiction, not able to work or care for herself, or does not show value to her partner. It is a patriarchal message that basically states, “you have to produce or perform in order to receive love from another person.” You have seen the displays everywhere from reality tv shows, to Beyoncé and Jay-Z imitating Bonnie and Clyde, Kim Kardashian in response to criticism of Kanye West tweeting “I will always ride for my man.” What happens to the woman who is always “riding” for her man? What happens to her mental, physical, and spiritual health by always focusing on other’s needs? What happens when struggle love becomes exhausting and burdensome? There are also countless movies that put women in the position to always have unconditional love for her man. From a young age, women are put in positions of caregiver and somehow it is hardly ever mentioned how a partner is supposed to care for them in return. ![]() Struggle Love pays homage to the ride “Ride or Die Chick.” Both terms are definitely not endearing, however these types of messages are constantly part of the socialization of women. Struggle Love, it is a term that has surfaced in the past couple of years to describe a woman who constantly finds herself in relationships with men who do not have their affairs in order. ![]()
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